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Managing Relationship Conflicts

Managing Relationship Conflicts

Four years ago Dan sustained a devastating personal injury with permanent impairments. He had been married to Sheila for several years before his accident and both he and his wife enjoyed their relationship and the joy that it brought them. Since his injury however, Dan had become increasingly demanding of Shiela often expressing anger and dissatisfaction with the care that she provided to him and how she cleaned their home.

Shiela, on the other hand, was often critical and demeaning to her husband. They could both be mean and hurtful in their attacks on each other. As a result of their frustration, Dan and Sheila often went several days without speaking and at other times, small issues would easily blow up into major disagreements. Both were becoming increasingly distant from each other and questioned the future of their marriage. (Case Study by: Stanley Ducharme, Ph.D.)

This short case report is an example of how easily a relationship can be placed in jeopardy. When conflict is mismanaged, it can cause great harm to a relationship, in this case, it can also end up in a separation or even divorce. Unfortunately, both of them didn’t put any effort in resolving the differences between them, thereby not attempting to save their relationship.

Likewise, conflicts can emerge anywhere involving people. Conflict arises from differences, both large and small. Everyone needs to feel understood, nurtured, and supported, but the ways in which these needs are met vary widely. Differing needs for feeling comfortable and safe create some of the most severe challenges in our personal and professional relationships.

Think about the conflicting need for safety and continuity versus the need to explore and take risks. You frequently see this conflict between toddlers and their parents. The child’s need is to explore, so the street or the cliff meets a need. But the parents’ need is to protect the child’s safety, so limiting exploration becomes a bone of contention between them.

This conflict can grow between the child and the parent, giving rise to serious relationship issues between the two.

In workplace conflicts, differing needs are often at the heart of bitter disputes, sometimes resulting in broken deals, fewer profits and lost jobs.

When you can recognize the legitimacy of conflicting needs at workplace and become willing to examine them in an environment of compassionate understanding, it opens pathways to creative problem solving, team building, and improved relationships.

Conflicts can be productive, creating deeper understanding, closeness and respect, or they can be destructive, causing resentment, hostility and divorce. How the conflicts get resolved, not how many occur, is the critical factor in determining whether a relationship will be healthy or unhealthy, mutually satisfying or unsatisfying, friendly or unfriendly, deep or shallow, intimate or cold.

Therefore, the skill of conflict resolution becomes very important to maintain healthy and long lasting relationship. To do so, identifying your personality, innate potentials, strengths & areas of improvement and also of others is pivotal.

You have the advantage today, uncovering your true strengths, talents and powers within, with the help of widely used Psychometric tools and techniques. These advances in the field of Psychology empowers you and your ability to learn to analyse human behaviour. Different Psychometric assessments enables you to understand other’s behaviours/personality and to analyse the same, thereby equipping you to manage conflicting situations in different relationships effectively

You must be wondering how?

Make a choice, for a better change.

Make a decision to invest your time to learn more about your hidden strengths and competency.

All you need to do is to choose a path, a path that helps you assess yourself, understand your inner strengths, reflect and plan your change for the better, check for the right steps to get your success by effectively dealing with conflicts in different relationships and finally get ready to relaunch your life, career or relationships for a brighter tomorrow.

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Planning a Team Building activity? Read this before you begin.

In the journey towards team building excellence it is important to recognise the impact that human personality and psychology have on team health and group trust.

Lifelong influences of one’s heredity, coupled with the shaping of one’s attitude by the environment can cause people to build walls around themselves. These walls are sometimes so hardened that even the most well thought out team building activity is not able to shake and brake through.

What you then have is a tricky situation where unpleasant behaviours manifest but the real reason is not understood by people around. This situation not only undermines team building efforts, it polarizes the group further.

The science of sensitization

Sensitization of participants to their own colleagues will justify the personal effort required to accept each other for what they are and what they bring to the table. This will also give the power and put the onus of developing esprit de corps required for high functioning teams, into the hands of the team members themselves and not just on the team lead.

Personality profiling through psychometrics is an exercise whose benefits far outweigh the minimal effort required to administer it. By taking simple assessments, participants are involved in a scientific exploration of each other’s innate choice of expression, emotions and mindsets.

When these traits show themselves as reactions, responses, and other behaviours during a team building activity, individuals begin to realise the kind of specific personal effort required to build bridges that last.

One could go so far as to credit this approach with making psychologists and personal coaches out of every team member. Talk about distribution of power!

How does one bring a psychometric approach to team building

A team building facilitator, should be able to administer and interpret psychometric assessments accurately and independently, adding a formidable arm to your capabilities.

You can choose from a wide range of assessments that you can apply, to capture crucial information on behavioural patterns, communication styles and habits, leadership competency mapping as well as personality profiling.

The real impact, however, comes from being able to interpret the results of the tests to align with the need of the client. This takes skill and practice but can be learnt quickly with the proper guidance.

MAPP battery of psychometric assessments and certification

MAPP is battery of psychometric assessments with the scope to enrich any team building exercise. It is a proven weapon in the hands of facilitators who want to bring in the dimension of true people understanding, in a relaxed, fun environment.

Learn how you can use MAPP to your advantage.

For corporate/individual workshops and certification drop an email to

learning@oscarmurphy.com or call us on +91 9972301145

Don’t Take your Talent for Granted. Tap Your Talent to Map Your Career

You have the talent, the capability, the knowledge, the skill and the attitude for excelling in certain aspects of life and career. Your secret to success is to learn to tap into it and transform your career by mapping what is right for you. You are unique, special, different and intelligent and you are the right person for the right job. But your task is to determine what is the right job or career that provides job satisfaction, happiness and career growth.

It is time now for you to seize opportunities using your hidden strengths and capabilities. Your awareness of your unknown weaknesses, blind-spots and limitations are keys to eliminating possible threats to your success. But it is your firm belief in your strengths and your ability to work on your capabilities that will change the game in your favour. You need to believe in your talent and competence to open up opportunities like never before. This win within is what makes you click and succeed since it stems from basic belief of continuous improvement.

Harness your strengths to generate power and create opportunity of abundance, peace, progress and prosperity for your life, family, your career & company.

Tapping your talent by scientific mapping removes dependency on market conditions and dynamics of the ever-changing economy. It is about your inherent strengths, powers, competencies, intelligence, likes, preferences and feelings of the individual based on their genetics and upbringing.

Tapping your talent by scientifically mapping it is based on the science of psychology of human behaviour. It is based on the time tested principle that ‘to succeed in one’s career, one has to identify and work on one’s strengths and not on weaknesses’. ‘One has to get the best out of their powers and not be stuck with problems’.

Tapping your talent by scientific mapping is much more than career planning. It makes use of psychometric assessments to help the individual to get to know one’s strengths and weaknesses based on heredity and environmental influences in one’s life. It provides total clarity to the individual of one’s KASH – Knowledge, Attitudes, Skills & Habits.

To MAPP your Career please send a mail stating your job challenges with your contact details to salma@oscarmurphy.com and get expert recommendations as to how you should strategize your life and career.

If you are a recruiter, career counselor, corporate trainer, executive coach, parent, teacher, manager or consultant, you have the option to get certified to administer scientific career mapping tools yourself - that measure attitudes, personality and performance potentials of your client.

Please feel free to ask for the details of the MAPP certification process with lifelong benefits.

Send an email to salma@oscarmurphy.com or call 91 9972301145. We take pride in being able to help and assist in your quest for the right career and professional purpose.