Managing Relationship Conflicts

Managing Relationship Conflicts

Four years ago Dan sustained a devastating personal injury with permanent impairments. He had been married to Sheila for several years before his accident and both he and his wife enjoyed their relationship and the joy that it brought them. Since his injury however, Dan had become increasingly demanding of Shiela often expressing anger and dissatisfaction with the care that she provided to him and how she cleaned their home.

Shiela, on the other hand, was often critical and demeaning to her husband. They could both be mean and hurtful in their attacks on each other. As a result of their frustration, Dan and Sheila often went several days without speaking and at other times, small issues would easily blow up into major disagreements. Both were becoming increasingly distant from each other and questioned the future of their marriage. (Case Study by: Stanley Ducharme, Ph.D.)

This short case report is an example of how easily a relationship can be placed in jeopardy. When conflict is mismanaged, it can cause great harm to a relationship, in this case, it can also end up in a separation or even divorce. Unfortunately, both of them didn’t put any effort in resolving the differences between them, thereby not attempting to save their relationship.

Likewise, conflicts can emerge anywhere involving people. Conflict arises from differences, both large and small. Everyone needs to feel understood, nurtured, and supported, but the ways in which these needs are met vary widely. Differing needs for feeling comfortable and safe create some of the most severe challenges in our personal and professional relationships.

Think about the conflicting need for safety and continuity versus the need to explore and take risks. You frequently see this conflict between toddlers and their parents. The child’s need is to explore, so the street or the cliff meets a need. But the parents’ need is to protect the child’s safety, so limiting exploration becomes a bone of contention between them.

This conflict can grow between the child and the parent, giving rise to serious relationship issues between the two.

In workplace conflicts, differing needs are often at the heart of bitter disputes, sometimes resulting in broken deals, fewer profits and lost jobs.

When you can recognize the legitimacy of conflicting needs at workplace and become willing to examine them in an environment of compassionate understanding, it opens pathways to creative problem solving, team building, and improved relationships.

Conflicts can be productive, creating deeper understanding, closeness and respect, or they can be destructive, causing resentment, hostility and divorce. How the conflicts get resolved, not how many occur, is the critical factor in determining whether a relationship will be healthy or unhealthy, mutually satisfying or unsatisfying, friendly or unfriendly, deep or shallow, intimate or cold.

Therefore, the skill of conflict resolution becomes very important to maintain healthy and long lasting relationship. To do so, identifying your personality, innate potentials, strengths & areas of improvement and also of others is pivotal.

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